Marriage

This page is a resource for clergy celebrating and blessing marriage. Information on remarriage petitions, as well as policies and liturgies on same-sex marriage, can be found here. Clergy not resident in the Diocese of Olympia must seek permission from the bishop before performing rites in the diocese. A request should be made in writing no less than 60 days before the rites are to take place. If you are seeking to officiate in a congregation in which you do not hold a cure, you must first seek permission, in writing, from the clergy person in charge of the congregation before seeking permission to officiate from the Office of the Bishop.

Un rito para la celebración y bendición de una santa unión (Opción 1).

Haga clic aquí para la versión en inglés.

Here are the basic steps for approval if you wish to officiate at a wedding in the Diocese of Olympia and are not licensed or canonically resident.

Requests should be made at least 60 days prior to the proposed wedding date.

  • Send a letter to the Bishop requesting permission. Include in this letter the answers to the following questions:
    • Your full name, current mailing address, and the name of your Diocese of residency

    • Names of persons being married

    • First marriage for both parties? Y or N

    • Has pre-marital prep been done? Y or N
      If Yes, by whom?

    • Are the parties connected to a Parish? Y or N
      If Yes, which Parish?

    • Which Parish service register will this be placed into?

    • Will the service have a Eucharist? Y or N

    • Will the service take place at a church? Y or N

  • Submit a letter of good standing from the diocese where the requesting officiant is canonically resident.

Any further information, correspondence or questions should be sent to the Executive Assistant to the Bishop.

This is the document for liturgical resources for marriage that was presented to the 79th General Convention in 2018. It includes liturgies, guidelines, and recommendations for use in same-sex wedding ceremonies. The link for this is HERE.

ALL REMARRIAGE PETITIONS MUST BE RECEIVED BY THE OFFICE OF THE BISHOP AT LEAST 60 DAYS PRIOR TO THE PROPOSED WEDDING DATE.

Remarriage petitions should be written by the presiding priest, not the couple.

ALL REMARRIAGE PETITIONS MUST CONTAIN THE FOLLOWING:

1 The full names of the parties to be married.
2 The names of the Episcopal congregations in which these persons are active members.
3 The names of former spouses.
4 The dates of final divorce decrees involved. (If you are satisfied that the previous marriage(s) has (have) been dissolved or annulled by a final judgment or decree, it is not necessary to submit copies of the divorce decree.)
5 If child support is to be paid, whether the person involved is current in payment.
6 A statement concerning the reason for the end of prior marriage(s).
7 A statement telling how and why this new relationship will be different.
8 A statement concerning the manner in which the couple intends to place God at the center of their marriage and home.
9 Assurance from the priest petitioner that he or she, after careful inquiry, is firmly convinced that the petition should be granted, including a statement of his or her reasons for this opinion (if they have not been covered in 7 and 8 above).

AGAIN, ALL REMARRIAGE PETITIONS SHOULD HAVE ALL NINE ITEMS ADDRESSED ABOVE.

For a second marriage, a waiting period of one year from the date of final divorce decree is normally required. If a lengthy separation (in excess of two years) has occurred, a six-month waiting period may be granted.

For third or more marriages, ending for any reason, including death, it is the expectation that counseling will be done with a Licensed Marriage and Family Counselor and the full report, or at least a letter on their letterhead stating the couples completion of counseling and if possible their opinion on the couple’s readiness for marriage, submitted to the Bishop’s Office. This means that you will need to plan far in advance to make sure that this can be accomplished. You may find a licensed counselor at www.AAMFT.org or call the Bishop’s Office.

Send all remarriage petitions to:
Bishop
The Episcopal Diocese of Olympia
1551 Tenth Avenue East
Seattle, Washington 98102

Marriage Celebration Agreement, provided by the Rev. Kathleen Kingslight

The Celebration and Blessing of a Covenant Relationship (Option 2)

A Rite for the Celebration and Blessing of a Holy Union (Option 1)

Click here for the Spanish version.

I Will Bless You, formerly known as A049 as passed at General Convention 2012

Policy on Same Sex Blessings in the Diocese of Olympia